Several years ago, I decided I had had enough of feeling unhappy with my weight, and joined a slimming group. This for me was a success in several respects: I enjoyed going to the weekly meetings, increased my exercise dramatically, followed the dietary rules pretty strictly, and lost a stone over a period of 16 weeks, to become the slimmest I ever had been in my adult life, which I enjoyed.
However I did not tackle my capacity to eat in ways I do not like, so when I stopped attending, and when controlling my eating could no longer be the top priority in my life, these resurfaced. When I came across your book it was a revelation, and I really think you have the most insight into these issues of any approach I’ve come across. However, when trying to apply your teachings to my life, I miss the face-to-face support from others going through the same thing that I experienced in a slimming group.
This really seems to be particularly important to me when trying to make changes in my life. Last week a leaflet came through my door advertising a slimming group, which is starting at the end of my road, and I am very tempted to go along, for the support network. But I also worry it would shift the focus to my weight and appearance, and I already struggle to diminish the importance of that. Any suggestions would be welcome!
First of all, I assume my suggestion at the end of Chapter 1 in EATING LESS doesn’t work for you:
“You may want to read this book on your own, or create a group to meet and discuss it on a regular basis. Alternatively, you may want to find a counsellor or therapist with whom you can explore these themes. All of these are possibilities for you to choose from, depending on your needs and circumstances.”
I can understand that this isn’t something you want to consider. Groups have been created, though, and I especially remember a group of eight in New Zealand who met once a week to study and support each other as they worked through the ideas and techniques in my book. They clubbed together and paid for a one-hour Skype call with me with all their questions, so I got to meet them, and it was a delight.